Big Cat, Little Cat: Impostor Syndrome Impostor Syndrome It seems like nothing is as integral to the writing process as impostor syndrome. I should really have called this website 3 Rules of Writing. And the third rule should have been: “Stop it with this impostor syndrome bullshit. You’re not fooling anyone. We know exactly how…
Tag: self-care
Finding my Place as a Writer
I’ve had a pretty beastly journey with anxiety. There have been times I’ve really struggled with anxiety so bad that I experienced agoraphobia. When simple things like leaving my apartment to take the trash just a few feet down the hall to the trash chute might trigger a panic attack. When going outside my building…
Depression (Caturday)
Big Cat, Little Cat: Depression Dealing with Depression… in Story I was reading a really interesting book the other day. My friend had asked me to be a beta reader for her new novel, written from the perspective of two house-cats. The background characters are a woman who suffers from what appears to be severe…
Spoonie Life and Sporkie Workarounds
What is Spoon Theory? What is a Spoonie? I’ve been candid about my neuro-atypicality and mental health, and about some of the details about life with chronic illness and chronic pain. Adam’s been candid about his own challenges with mental health and neuro-atypicality, too. We rely on the Spoon Theory a lot, checking with each…
Feel Better (Caturday)
Big Cat, Little Cat: Feel Better Description Four identical panels sit in a group, two above and two below. In each, a large orange cat with darker orange stripes sits next to a smaller gray with darker grey stripes. The orange is looking down at the grey with an expression of contentment, while the grey…
Pain and Palliative Care
COVID: Another Source of Pain… and Anxiety So after nearly 36 months of working so hard to avoid COVID, I’ve got the spicy cough. I’m not actually coughing too much, but I’m congested, I’ve got itchy eyes, I’m aching everywhere and I’m exhausted. Those last two things aren’t all that unusual. Aches and exhaustion are…
Kindness: Be Kind, not Nice
Last week I got a new roommate here in rehab. She’s recovering from some pretty major surgery and really isn’t “alert and oriented”. Her husband has been coming here every day and sitting with her for ten to twelve hours a day. He clearly loves her very much and wants to do all he can…
Observations of a Jew on Christmas
Let’s talk about Christmas. Sure, I’m Jewish and I talk a lot about being Jewish. But when you consider how many of your favorite Christmas songs (and the best Christmas songs) were written by Jews, it’s clear that Jews have plenty to say about Christmas. I certainly do. Christmas, Whether you Like it or Not…
Hannukah Makes me Proud to be Queer
It’s the first night of Hannukah. I’m bathed in the light from the menorah as I write this. I think almost everyone is familiar with the story about the oil that lasted for eight nights when there was only enough to last for one day. I’ve got my holiday music playlist on and my Hannukah…
All I Want for Hannukah is to Keep a Little Oil in the Tank
Some parts of this piece have been percolating for a bit. There are a lot of things here that are just always gnawing at the back of my mind, waiting for the right story to come together for me to share. In fact, I even thought about writing it last week, but the truth is,…