What is Spoon Theory? What is a Spoonie? I’ve been candid about my neuro-atypicality and mental health, and about some of the details about life with chronic illness and chronic pain. Adam’s been candid about his own challenges with mental health and neuro-atypicality, too. We rely on the Spoon Theory a lot, checking with each…
Month: January 2023
Feel Better (Caturday)
Big Cat, Little Cat: Feel Better Description Four identical panels sit in a group, two above and two below. In each, a large orange cat with darker orange stripes sits next to a smaller gray with darker grey stripes. The orange is looking down at the grey with an expression of contentment, while the grey…
Do you Speak Spanish?
My Spanish-Speaking Family I’ve never considered myself a fluent Spanish speaker. On Christmas, sitting under a table as a kid, I’d listen to my cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents all speak Spanish around me, but I couldn’t participate, so I grew to ignore it. I started taking Spanish classes in middle school. I learned verb…
The Fourth Wall (Caturday)
Big Cat, Little Cat: The Fourth Wall Was the Fourth Wall Always There? Back in my dissertatin’ days, one of my particular interests was: the occasions on which an epic poet talks in the first person. You might say: times when the poet breaks the fourth wall. For example, the way Homer does at the…
Writing Fiction: Learning to Say “I Can”
About two years ago, fueled by COVID and general upheaval in my life, I started writing again. Writing was something I’d loved doing. Until I let someone into my life who destroyed my confidence in so many ways. And, as a result, I stopped doing things that brought me joy. That was almost twenty-five years…
Jokes in Bad Taste (Caturday)
Big Cat, Little Cat: Jokes in Bad Taste What is it about Jokes in Bad Taste that I can’t Quit? I’m a big believer in making jokes that punch up, not down. I will make jokes about transphobia or racism. But never about a trans person or a Black person. One of the canards you…
An Archaic Concept: Postscript / Bridge
Stop! If you haven’t read the previous Delivery, you can find it here: And if you are wondering what this “Archaic Concept” stuff is, why not start at the first Delivery? Part One The old man closes his laptop and sighs. Done. That entire thread of his life is now documented. Documented as fiction, as…
Pain and Palliative Care
COVID: Another Source of Pain… and Anxiety So after nearly 36 months of working so hard to avoid COVID, I’ve got the spicy cough. I’m not actually coughing too much, but I’m congested, I’ve got itchy eyes, I’m aching everywhere and I’m exhausted. Those last two things aren’t all that unusual. Aches and exhaustion are…
Sharing (Caturday Questions)
Big Cat, Little Cat: Sharing Timing a Joke Did you ever go through a period of maybe a few months or maybe… twenty years… in which every time you tried to tell a joke nobody laughed? And it took until you were in your mid-twenties to early thirties before people started actually laughing when you…
Kindness: Be Kind, not Nice
Last week I got a new roommate here in rehab. She’s recovering from some pretty major surgery and really isn’t “alert and oriented”. Her husband has been coming here every day and sitting with her for ten to twelve hours a day. He clearly loves her very much and wants to do all he can…